Walled Off Pain – Part III

Submitted by Fred Jeans, Chaplain, Kenilworth Care & Rehabilitation Center, Sebring, FL

Just a thought –

In nearly all things spiritual, it is the attitude of the heart that defines the rightness or wrongness of the action. When I am offended, with or without cause, if I really must have an apology, I haven’t forgiven, and I am thinking of myself.  When I examine my own heart and find that my concern is not for the offending party but for the offended party (me) I am wrong even if I am right.

So often those who are hurt, want to get even, and  in an attempt to humiliate, they demand an apology. On the other hand, desiring an apology as a means of healing the relationship, or to free the other person from the guilt they may or may not have, may be the correct way to go.

The issue is not necessarily wanting an apology but “Why” I want an apology. Ironically, Neither wanting or not wanting an apology is correct all of the time. Circumstance and motive determine the correct path, and even then, we must be led by the Holy Spirit. In God’s world, my right and His right are not necessarily the same, which is why the Scripture says that it is not in man to direct his own path, Our rights as defined by law, are seldom the path God chooses for His people.

“In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path.”

Fredric E. Jeans, Chaplain,
Kenilworth Care & Rehabilitation Center